Dear Lounge Advice, MY PARTNER AND I HAVE HSV2 WHICH IS INACTIVE MOST OF THE TIME AND WE SAID SO IN OUR PROFILE. WE DON'T SEEM TO BE GETTING ANY BITES. WHAT CAN U SUGGEST TO HELP US MEET MORE COUPLES AND PEOPLE WITH OUR PROBLEM? SINCERELY, LINDA Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), First, it's admirable that you are being upfront and honest about your condition. I don't want to paint a bleak picture, but you will probably continue to find it arduous to locate suitable matches. Ironically, it is your honesty that causes you the biggest hindrance. If you are willing, post this in the forums to see if you get some private hit. There are some couples who will not state their condition in their profiles, but will privately indulge you with their status. Then, there are others who are afraid of approaching others with this condition, for fear of being 'ratted out'. I don't have an easy fix for this. The best thing that I can advise is for you to continue searching and advertising yourselves widely in many venues. You are bound to find a match eventually, even if it takes some patience.   ASKROBYN

Dear Lounge Advice, We have been members of the LL for quite some time, and albeit not real ACTIVE in the lifestyle, have sent a fair share of "hello's" and "would like to meets". We do live in a small town and must be Very Very careful of our annonymity (sp) our business depends on that our profile is quite sparse and we are far from ugly! but what is it that keeps people from wanting to send US a "hello" or "would like to meet"? We have been to some meet and greets which we found to be "clicky" do we have some black flag attached to our profile we cant see? we understand we are not part of the LL "$beautiful$" crowd but still love the life and friendship that this lifestyle offers Sincerely, (Anonymous)

Dear (Anonymous), This site is based out of MN, so you have a LOT of people around you, as you must obviously know. The disadvantage you face is that you only have three profile pictures, and nothing in your main album. The more pictures, the better. To be perfectly frank, you have a lot of "competition" in your area. You simply need to get a leg up on this competition. Here are some ways you can do that: 1) Put up more profile pics. Understandably, your jobs limit placing pics in the public album. No problem. You can still stuff your private albums with good pics. 2) Continue to be proactive. Do not expect people to come to you. It would be great to sit back and wait while others bombard our inboxes with e-mails, but that's not reality. My husband and I have to reach out frequently to others in order to make solid connections. The more you do this, the better your odds will be. 3) Attend local events. Mingle and be friendly. Nothing is better than an in-person interaction to gauge attraction. 4) A lot of us (I'm guilty of this myself) search online profiles, but completely pass over those without a primary pic in the main album. Call it laziness, but it's commonplace. Consider putting up a provocative picture that doesn't show your face, just so you have a main profile pic. This will at least lure people further into your profile so that they can see the rest of your pics. Especially living in MN, you are in a sea of MANY others who have main profile pics. You may have been passed over many times during searches merely because of this. I hope this helps you a bit. Come on back if you need more advice to help you in your quest.   ASKROBYN